A very common client goal in #therapy is "I want to change", "I want therapy to change me"
Well, as much as I would love to help, there are some barriers in this thought that need to be reflected upon!
🤯 Who is behind the change: Most successful transformations come about when one is motivated from 'within'. Feedbacks are essential, I agree. However, what other people think needs to change cannot transpire into a successful transformation for YOU!
🤔 Why behind the change: Sometimes we are not able to work according to our previous threshold. For example, you were able to maintain your relationships and now constant feedback is coming through that they don't feel your authentic self in the relationship or you don't feel very comfortable with the relationship. What's your why?
🕺🏼 Green flags: What are your strengths? How do you define your strengths? Can those be used to work on the areas you are not comfortable with?
🧗🏼♀️ Effort: Transformations come with a LOT of self-work that includes unlearning and relearning. Are you ready for that?
💛 Self-compassion: In the process of transforming, we start to aim at an all or nothing thought process wherein we feel that "If we don't become our changed selves, we are not good enough'-This thought process can make us feel over-critical of ourselves
What's the one thing you want to change and what's YOUR why?